Ashram is very secondary, ashram is simply a comfortable position from where we serve Krishna, ashram is never the goal.
It is a platform from where we serve Krishna and it is nothing in itself.
Ashram in itself is not successful; it is not how perfectly one follows the ashram …. Sometimes we make too much out of ashram and then when we start taking pride in the ashram …but then watch out for the Puran Mustika Bhava the mouse principle –
It is because one might easily slip so we take shelter of ashram to serve Krishna.
It is the service to Krishna that is the saving grace and it is service to Krishna that can turn the relationship between man and woman into a sacred space and help to go forward towards the spiritual world.
Transcribed by Madhumati Devi Dasi
(Kadamba Kanana Swami, Sydney 2010)