(Kadamba Kanana Swami, Helsinki, Finland, 2011)
I brought up the point of the child because it is very deeply belonging to the female body. Like generally in this world, men get married because they want a woman. Most of the times when a woman gets married it is because she wants a child, or at least a man and a child. So that element is there.
I saw a film on a plane somewhere, and it was interesting, because it showed a man who fell in love with this woman, and then they were getting married. She was then expecting. Then the camera went down to the child level. The camera was suddenly on the height of the child’s eyes. The child was there and the lady was wearing all these baggy dresses. She didn’t look very beautiful anymore – not like she used to look. Then there were these children and toys all over the house! And you saw this man thinking:
“What happened? What happened to you?”
So it was interesting, because it showed the dynamics of the material world: A man wants a princess and what does he get? He gets all these little kids and toys and the whole universe like that.
So the ladies in spiritual life, they have to (as much as the men) detach from the bodily identification. The tendencies are very strong. We see that at a certain time of the year, the birds start building nests, and it’s just wired in, in nature. In the same way, when the woman when she gets to a certain age, there it is:
‘We need………..we need the house………….we need a play to stay somewhere because it’s time for these things’.
That’s fine in the gṛhastha-āśrama it should be like that, but one should solve this tendency to somewhat renounced spirit:
śikṣārtham ekaḥ puruṣaḥ purāṇaḥ,’ [Cc.Madya 6.254].
It is said that ‘vairāgya’ – is the fundamental principle of Lord Caitanya’s movement. In other words that we are solving our material needs in a simple way and we do not allow all these things to take over.