Looking for strength

(Kadamba Kanana Swami, Helsinki, Finland, 2011)

A lot of fuss has been made about women wanting to be equal to men. But in most cases, the truth of the matter is that men have become equal to women – that’s actually the situation. That’s actually where we are at in society.

In a sense that men are also weak, and they are also inclined towards the senses and not inclined towards a higher goal. The men are supposed to be strong by saying, ‘no’, and going for the spiritual goals in life instead, but the men are very weak, and the whole culture is like that. Everyone is a slave to the senses, and everyone is full of good intentions but cannot live up to it, because this is the situation. When we take to spiritual life, then we fix ourselves:

“Yes I’m going to do this”.

And we don’t do it, because we are getting confronted with the three modes of material nature – we find ourselves weak, because we find that we do not having enough strength to do so! So men are meant to be strong but in this age the men are also weak! That is why I said:

“When we say men and women become equal”.

Yes, that has already happened – the men became like the women. So that is the whole population, which is very much inclined towards the mind and the senses – that is the situation.

Therefore, we see now that sometimes some women are spiritually stronger than men, where the wife is the driving force in the family and the man is sort of flaky, and half there, by not following all of the principles……….falling back into smoking dope. I know so many cases like this, but the truth of the matter is that, that is Krishna’s arrangement, and Srila Prabhupada is making a point here:

“Because women were especially created by the Lord to give service to men!”

A woman is looking for strength in a man. A woman wants to feel protected, and wants to feel supported and is looking for a man who is actually stronger than she is, since then she will actually feel inspired and follow the man…………and together she can also do it. Therefore, in the Bhagavatam it is stated:

“If one wants to become a husband, then one has to be of a very high calibre. One has to be practically as good as a spiritual master”.

So where do we find such husbands? Mostly the husbands are struggling and weak, then the women become restless and not satisfied. We don’t understand these things when we come from the west. We don’t understand that deep down there is this expectation, since the woman expects the man to spiritually be the example. That is the kind of man that she really wants – a the first class man!