(H H Kadamba Kanana Swami, Nove Sady, Czech Republic, 14th March 2012) Lecture: SB 11.5.32
When you get involved with people in loving relationships, then it’s not easy. If both are worshiping Krishna, then it may work. But if there is no Krishna and only relationships with people, well then forget it! I will tell you that you will have a hard time, because then everyone is thinking of himself, and then he is thinking:
‘She is here for my enjoyment!’
She is thinking:
‘And he’s here for mine.’
And the whole relationship is about pulling at each other – who’s going to work for who? Who’s the boss? Krishna is the boss, He really is, so what can you d, since we are not, because we are not in control.
Therefore, we have to accept that Krishna is in control, He is the Supreme controller. So when the spiritual element is there within the relationship, then the relationships begins to work; then an aspect of selflessness enters into the relationship and that is the essence!