(HH Kadamba Kanana Swami, Cape Town, South Africa, 25 September 2011)
Politeness is required when we are not pure… when our feelings are not pure; otherwise we would offend each other many times a day so we learn some politeness to govern social rules. But when there is genuine love… real love… then that supersedes politeness. In fact, it would not be appreciated if your beloved, one who is really dear to you, gets extremely formal with you. You wonder what’s going on here… this is the wrong mood… I want to know what you really feel from the heart. I don’t want you to say “you are very nice” because you are supposed to. No, say what you really think… the truth… that’s what we want in love!