Sexual entanglement

(Kadamba Kanana Swami, 03 April 2015, Durban, South Africa, Ratha Yatra Lecture: Sexuality and Spirituality)

The body is not offering us just enjoyment alone. Sex, how much does it satisfy… does it fully satisfy… and for how long? Then, we get some by-products and are they wanted? Sometimes they are and sometimes not, right? But it is no problem because the other day, I saw in Mangosuthu, Umlazi (in Durban), just outside the university, that abortion was safe, happens on the same day and for only R200. Cheap and best! So, just see, problem solved. But what about the karma… the karma for murder… the charges? Because abortion is murder! Murder in the womb because there is a living being in there. When the baby is out of the womb and if you cut its throat, they will come to pick you up, right? The guys with the blue lights, they will take you in. With abortion, not so much happens now but after this life, the reactions come. Karmic reactions come.

The point is that sexuality always has strings attached. When the boy wants the girl, it is going to cost him a lot of money. That is how it works, is it not guys? You have to spend some money, if you want the girl. That is the way of the world, so what to say. My point is not to highlight these things but my point is that no matter how we turn it, sexuality never exists as an isolated thing. There always are many things connected to it. If you want to do it in an honourable way, then you have to be married. You may want to be married, but sometimes you may not want to be married. That is the nature of being married! Some people really want to be married but then they have moments when they really do not want to be married… so many complexities. It does not come alone, sexuality weaves a web of entanglement.

I am a sannyasi for many years; celibate! Life is so simple since I do not have a family. I do not have a house. What do I need it for? I do not need it. When you have a wife, kids and all that then you need a house. I also do not have a car. It starts… when you are alone, you need a small car and after a while, you change to a four wheel drive, you get the family car then it just grows… it expands. So, sexuality by nature leads to expansion, somehow or other. Even when you try to avoid the responsibility and you are on the hit and run program, then it also costs you money, so there is no way around it. We have to understand that sexuality entangles us with the body and material nature. That is the point!